"Imagine all the people living life in peace. you may say i'm a dreamer, but i'm not the only one. I hope some day you'll join us and the world will live as one." - john lennon, "Dreamer"
This post was supposed to be published on February 15, the day after Valentine’s Day. However, what I had planned to talk about in regards to this day was washed off the table when yet another mass shooting in a school took the lives of over 15 people. More than fifteen people who went to school that morning, children who said goodbye to their parents for the last time, husbands who kissed their wives and said “see you after school”, and children who had their last kiss from their dads before they went to work that day.
So, this post is different than expected. Because instead of talking about how to move on from this special day of the month and keep loving growing in your relationship despite Valentine’s Day being over, we are talking about the lives of people who did not ask to die.
Please do not mistake this as a political post. Rather, it is a post to remind you that there are many different types of love and that romantic love or the lack of romantic love is not the only thing we should focus on.
We take relationships for granted, or at least I have. I haven’t called my parents as much as I should, I didn’t call my grandmothers much before they passed, I didn’t make an intention to let my friends, brothers, colleagues, and everyone else’s path I meet know how much they meant to me and how grateful I was for their presence in my life.
Love is one of few constants among cultures. Hugs, smiles, words of affirmation, things you do for someone else, etc. are ways that you can see love being expressed. There’s love that you have for your family, love for your children, the love you have for your spouse or significant other. There is the love that you have for your pet, your parents, and the love you have for life. Savor those relationships and experiences. As we have learned and continue to learn, trauma does not discriminate. It does not take a certain age, a certain population, a certain race. It does look at what you’ve done right or wrong or how many times you’ve gone to church this year. Trauma impacts everyone. And if you’re lucky enough to not had a traumatic event in your life, you know someone who does. So, it’s time to start acting like we have a lot to lose. Because we do.
Spread love around:
Robin Helget, LMSW, CPT
Millennial Life Coach