How To Find Your True Love
"loving ourselves through the process of owning our story is the bravest thing we can ever do." - brene brown
Many of us grew up watching or reading about fairytales--all about the stories of the princesses and princes who fell in loved and lived in this world of “Happily Ever After”. Many of us were taught that the goal in life was to find and be with a “true love”, a one person you were supposed to be with for the rest of your life.
Thankfully, in 2018, many of these beliefs and norms have changed, but for some of us the pressure of being married, staying married, or not-even-close-to-married weighs on our shoulders--especially around Valentine’s Day. If you’ve been divorced or widowed, this reading will still apply, and I know that today along with many other days may be extra difficult.
If you’ve found your true love, if you’re with your true love, if you’re seeking your true love, or if you’ve lost your true love, I have four words that will help you: look in the mirror.
We
often forget that the most important relationship we have is the one we have within ourselves. If we don’t nourish, care for, and be kind to the person within us, then everything around us will be meaningless. Many of my clients, friends, family, and even myself often forget about this person. The person who will always be there for you. The person whose body allows her to walk, run, laugh, smile, play with children, drive. The person whose brain allows her to think quickly, handle the big events in life, be the leader of the household, or run a company. The person whose heart carries many peoples’ worries and stories, loves her family, and cares for other people sometimes more than herself.
So, today, on this Valentine’s Day and whatever this day means for you, remember to look in the mirror. Remember to speak kindly to the person you see staring back at you, to offer grace for all the hard things going on in her life, and to really see her. Say “Hello.” Say “I love you”. Say “I got this.”
Here are a few of my favorite self-love activities you can do today:
Take a BIG bubble bath with your favorite bath bomb. (Something about putting bubbles up to your face and pretending your Santa is magnificent.)
Write a letter to yourself. (Tell yourself how proud you are, how resilient you’ve been, and some encouragement to meet your goals.)
Sign up for a class you’ve been wanting to take. (If you’ve always wanted to try belly dancing, yoga, barre, pilates, boxing, whatever!, now is the time! Many classes are available throughout Kansas City on Valentine’s Day. Your body will thank you and your mind will get some feel good juices, too!)
Make sure to check out the blog on Thursday for the Part 2 Series called “Valentine’s Day: The Aftermath”.
**Robin is offering a new client special for life coaching! For any NEW client, enjoy 50% off your first Life Coaching session. Join the rest of Millennials on a mission to create a more fulfilled and balanced life. Schedule online and put VALENTINE’S DAY in the “Comments” section to claim the discount!
Robin Helget, LMSW, CPT
robin@kcresolve.com
785.408.7529
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